Don't Wish It Away
Every day I experience a life changing process. I have friends going through life changing times right now....death of a loved one, health scares, bouncing back from health scares/issues, preparing for the birth of a child, job or career changes.We always seem to wish away the bad things in our lives. I am sure guilty of it. We just want it to pass, to get through it, get it over with so we can move on. The thing is, even though it is a difficult time or experience, you should be learning something and you will be stronger when it's done.
I think sometimes even through the good times we want to rush things along. People get in a rush to be finished with college just to work the rest of their lives. People wish to be married at a young age when they should take their time and be sure they are with the person they are truly supposed to be with. The Bible even says, "love is patient". Too many people hurry it, rush it, and if it is really a love that's worth it, it will wait.
People need to take time to know themselves, to be themselves, to establish themselves as an independent person even financially, before they try to share themselves with someone else and begin a life with them. If you only know who you are when you are with your significant other, then you are not doing right by yourself or them and you surely aren't doing yourselves a favor by rushing into a marriage. The quickest way to marriage problems is finances. Financial stress can be difficult on an established marriage.
People can say all day long that they will make it, because they love each other. Love is just one part of the relationship equation. You need to be happy with yourself. You need to have a sense of worth. You need to feel like you, as well as your partner, are contributing to the relationship.
I think the best thing that happened for me was establishing myself and learning to take care of myself, pay my own way, be responsible for my finances and then marriage. I honestly do not think a relationship would have been able to last and stand the test of the financial struggles that I had when I first began living on my own.
Take your time people. Life passes quickly. Don't wish the good things forward too fast. If something is worth having and keeping, it will still be worth it when you are in a better state of independence.
I think sometimes even through the good times we want to rush things along. People get in a rush to be finished with college just to work the rest of their lives. People wish to be married at a young age when they should take their time and be sure they are with the person they are truly supposed to be with. The Bible even says, "love is patient". Too many people hurry it, rush it, and if it is really a love that's worth it, it will wait.
People need to take time to know themselves, to be themselves, to establish themselves as an independent person even financially, before they try to share themselves with someone else and begin a life with them. If you only know who you are when you are with your significant other, then you are not doing right by yourself or them and you surely aren't doing yourselves a favor by rushing into a marriage. The quickest way to marriage problems is finances. Financial stress can be difficult on an established marriage.
People can say all day long that they will make it, because they love each other. Love is just one part of the relationship equation. You need to be happy with yourself. You need to have a sense of worth. You need to feel like you, as well as your partner, are contributing to the relationship.
I think the best thing that happened for me was establishing myself and learning to take care of myself, pay my own way, be responsible for my finances and then marriage. I honestly do not think a relationship would have been able to last and stand the test of the financial struggles that I had when I first began living on my own.
Take your time people. Life passes quickly. Don't wish the good things forward too fast. If something is worth having and keeping, it will still be worth it when you are in a better state of independence.
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